“The more you are able to forgive, the more you are able to love.”- Stephen Richards
Forgiveness is a word that many of us hear but we don’t really understand. Every person of the older generation I have spoken to has told me that you should be quick to apologize, but I also believe it is very important to be quick to forgive others. Forgiveness to most people means accepting an apology but never forgetting what someone did to us. What happens when you never receive an apology? Do we just continue to hate or dislike the person that did us wrong? I don’t believe that this is the answer or solution.
I, myself have been struggling with forgiving people who have done me wrong for the past 12 years. Trying to forgive fellow classmates who may have made fun of me in primary school, or relationships that may have failed for whatever reason or even family members who never understood how the words or the things they have done have affected me.
Forgiveness is so important because it allows us to take a situation that once made us feel sad, threatened or hurt into something beautiful. As stated before sometimes we do not receive the apology that we so long wish for but in our own minds and hearts we must forgive and let go of the hurt. When we allow ourselves to let go of the hurt that wasn’t followed by an apology, we allow ourselves to be put in a place that embodies light and beauty.
When I say forgive someone, I mean letting the situation completely go and realizing that we are all human and make mistakes out of anger, jealousy, or even pain that we are going through within our own personal lives. Putting ourselves in the shoes of someone else who has done us wrong may open up our own eyes to why they may have acted the way they did. I am not saying everyone has a reason for why they do the things they do, but maybe by trying to see the other person’s current situation then maybe we can empathize with them. By doing this we may be able to let go of the past.
I’m not sure if this makes sense to anyone, but my main point is forgiving is sometimes just as important as an apology because it allows the person on the receiving end to move on without holding grudges against anyone. It costs you nothing to forgive or apologize, but the peace of mind you will receive is the best reward.
Until next time, love and be loved.